As always – when I mention any neurodivergence my experiences are mine and mine alone. I don’t pretend to, or try to, speak for anyone else. I am diagnosed ADHD, and highly likely Autistic but can’t be given an official diagnosis due to my Autism not visibly affecting me (ie: no one else can tell unless I let on).

Nothing to do with this post, but something nice to look at.
It really does feel like Part 2, or Act 2, of my working life. So at the age of 52 I finally got myself a job that pays personal leave, annual leave, and public holidays; and is manageable with 4 kids without burning myself out. Even the way I got this job was brilliant and made me so happy 😁😂
In the first half of the year I was propagating my plants and doing a bit of virtual assistant work, and decided that I was ready to get more work. B was doing fine in grade 1, E was settling nicely into grade 4 and her Autistic needs were being met, and my older two were settling into grade 11 and first year of Uni. So I started to look for more VA jobs and also put an ad in a local FB group that I was available to be a “Parent Helper” which basically meant I was available to go and help look after kids if needed while parents were busy getting things organised for dinner, or for the next day; be an extra pair of hands to help with housework; babysit if parents wanted to go run errands or attend appointments without needing to take their babies/kids; or wanted to be able to go for a run, catch up with friends, or have some “me time”. (If anyone reading is looking for a job idea there was so much demand for this – you just need to be willing, have a blue card, and insurance.)
I loved doing the parent helper job, but I was finding it a bit physically demanding and draining, so unfortunately it wasn’t going to work for me long term; and while I’d found a bit of extra VA work it wasn’t really “working for me” like it does with my long-standing client. So back to the drawing board. I decided I wanted a job for the regular income and super, I wanted it to be local and within school hours, I wanted something that wasn’t overly demanding, had a bit of variety so I’m not getting bored, something that I could “leave at the office” at the end of the day (even though with ADHD that’s almost impossible), and I didn’t want to go through the soul destroying process of looking for a job. I wanted someone to just say “Hey, here’s this job, do you want it?”. I figured that last one was a pretty tall order, so I did actually look at jobs on Seek and found there were a few that almost fitted the bill.
And then one day I was on my local FB community group and someone made a post along the lines of “Hey, here’s this job, if you are interested send me a pm for more details.” So I did, and a few back and forth emails later, a trip into the office to meet the other staff and check out what the job involved, and I was offered the position 🙂 It meets all my requirements as listed above, it’s 6 mins away from school and home, and I can wear whatever – jeans, tshirt, and gardening boots, or runners are just fine.
I will admit it’s still been a bit of an adjustment to get my head around all the different parts to the job, and also learning to work in a small office team. I’ve been there almost 4 months now and I feel like I’m getting into the routine of things, although there always seems to be something new that crops up whenever I feel like I’ve got everything under control. Just to keep me on my toes. 😉
The main challenge now is to fit work into the rest of my life without it being too much for me. I was in a good place with my anxiety/stress levels and now that I’ve added in work, I need to probably take something away from another area to balance it. So far I’ve been doing all my normal “mum work” with school, managing 4 kids and their respective challenges, the house, etc, although Mr T has had to step in more as I’ve been falling a bit behind with it. And I haven’t been able to tend to my plants which I think I really need to do as it’s a mindful activity, plus it gets me outside, and I enjoy it.
I’m also having to learn how to apply some strategies for managing my ADHD in the workplace. I already knew I couldn’t rely on my memory – instead I have paper and pen handy so I can make notes. If things come into my in-tray I’ve started to put a note on them to remind me what I’m supposed to do with it. I have procedures written down for all my different tasks so that I can refer back to it (when I remember) and I am having to work a little differently than others might. For the most part that’s fine, but sometimes I get an odd look or comment, as people wonder why I can’t “just do it”, and why I’m bothered about something that “only takes a moment”. Mind you that’s not just at work so I’m kinda used to it!
For example, I work better if I’m not switching focus too much. When you have ADHD and are focusing on one task it’s often much easier to keep going with that rather than switching back and forth, so while I get told to just ask questions as they come up, for some things it’s better for me if I keep going and then ask at the end. This is particularly true if it’s going to be more than a one or two word answer. And for some people it would be no big deal for a side task to take a couple of seconds, but for me it’s at least double while I reign in my mind that has just gone off on a random tangent in those couple of seconds.
I also find it’s easier to maintain focus if I’m not having to physically move too much – I only just put this together. For example the other day I was sending emails off and making notes on a paper form as I sent each one. I found that I was much quicker if I made a spreadsheet with the names, send the email, tick the spreadsheet, move onto the next one; if I did it the first way then each time I moved from the computer to the paper (pick up the pen, look for the name, make the note, back to the computer) it took longer. It’s such a small thing, but as soon as my focus goes away from the computer, when I come back it takes me a couple of seconds to remember what I’m doing. And it’s not just the time, it’s that disconcerting feeling like my brain has gone blank in those couple of seconds – like that thing when you go through a doorway and instantly forget what you are doing there.
Actually I think that’s one of the main reasons I have just set my two monitors up to be both facing the front of the desk, rather than having one on a big angle. I thought it was just for my posture but no… I was finding that I had to physically move to see the second screen and by doing that it was really easy for me to “forget for a second” what I was doing. By having them both in view and only needing to turn my head I can maintain my work flow much easier.
So for things I want to get done quickly, maintaining focus is key and is less taxing for me, whereas other times switching focus is like a nice little break. My mind can go for a little wander and stretch it’s legs as it were. Fortunately my job has a nice mix of tasks so I get to do both.
It’s all a bit of a process, and I’m finding out how “ADHD” I really am, but I am also really enjoying the job and I’m determined to make it work. I do think that the variety of jobs I’ve done in the past, particularly working with customers and clients of all types, has given me some skills that will come in very handy in this role once I get past the learning phase. And once I am there I can let my ADHD hyperfocus kick in and see what ideas it come up with 😉
















































